Grinding Your Successful Biz 24/7 and No Plan for Siblings? 5 Tips on Using Donor Eggs for the 40-Something Mompreneur
At first, you did everything according to “the plan.”
You found Mr. Right, built up a successful business, and welcomed a gorgeous baby into your family.
Now, you’re flying into your forties with a vital element missing from your life plan – a sibling for your firstborn.
The worst part?
Reading statistics on fertility for the 40-something-year-old woman makes for stark reading. From your mid-30s onward, your egg count goes into a rapid decline, making the likelihood of naturally falling pregnant incredibly slim.
Unfortunately, while our modern lives have moved forward in so many ways, our ovarian reserves are still stuck in the Stone Age. They’re primed and ready during our 20s and early 30s – the time when you want to focus on building a successful career.
Thankfully, infertility options aren’t behind the times. In fact, they’re moving forward at an unprecedented rate. One of these technically advanced routes is donor egg.
Below, we’ll explore some quick facts and tips on donor eggs for busy working moms like us.
1. It Doesn’t Have to Take a Long Time
For many, the term “IVF” conjures up thoughts of long waiting times, numerous examinations, endless trips to the doctor, and – often – a lot heartache along the way, too.
Donor egg IVF removes much of the time-consuming elements involved in traditional IVF.
First, it solves the most common fertility problem in older women – their eggs. Second, if you choose frozen eggs, you don’t have to synchronize your cycle with your donors. This means your course of hormones, egg thawing, fertilization, and implantation can be implemented according to your schedule.
2. You’ll Have Control Over Your Pregnancy
Another concern may be the lack of control you’ll have over this second pregnancy, especially when you’re someone who’s used to having a tight hold of the reins!
Rest assured, you’ll still have control over this pregnancy.
From choosing a donor to coming up with your birthing plan, everything is still in your hands. In truth, you’ll likely have more control over a donor egg IVF pregnancy than a traditional one.
After all, how many moms know exactly what date they’re going to conceive?
3. You Can Influence Your Baby’s Genes
One of the biggest hurdles’ women must overcome with egg donation is their baby won’t be genetically linked to them.
Will my baby look like me?
These concerns are completely natural, but you’ll need to work through them (perhaps with a counselor). As you process these emotions and embark on your search for an egg donor, you can take comfort in the fact you’re still influencing your baby’s genes.
Whether you choose a donor that you know or an individual from an egg bank, you’re still choosing your baby’s potential genes. From their hair color to their personality traits, you’ll have an idea of what your baby’s genetic makeup may look like.
Furthermore, research indicates mothers who use egg donors still influence their baby’s genes while carrying them in their womb.
4. You’ll Enjoy a Pregnancy Just Like Your First
This pregnancy may not start like your first, but it’ll develop exactly like it!
After the fertilized embryos are implanted into your womb (and a pregnancy test confirms the happy news), you’re free to enjoy your pregnancy like any other. Feeling that first kick, watching your stomach grow, and giving birth to your baby are all possible with donor egg. Surrogacy and/or adoption simply don’t offer these experiences.
5. Your Children (and You) Create an Unbreakable Bond
Just like those concerns you have about whether your baby will look like you, you may also worry about the bonds that’ll develop between you and your baby, and between your first and second born.
Again, these apprehensions are entirely normal.
However, as you feel your baby growing inside you, the bond between the two of you will grow stronger day by day. And while your firstborn watches your stomach grow and eagerly anticipates the arrival of their new baby brother or sister, their sibling connection is forged forevermore.
Forming Your Family on Your Terms
As a mompreneur, you’re already breaking the mold. You aren’t living the 9-to-5 like everyone else – you’re paving your own way through life.
Why should you conform to your body’s requests and demands, either?
Having a baby because your biological clock says you should just don’t fit into the life you’ve created for yourself. Egg donation can give you your control back.
Your second pregnancy is on your terms and your schedule.